by Fran Connors
There are many reasons why a relationship may become violent. A toxic relationship can be started out mutually agreeable for both parties until something changes in the relationship. Some big factors that can change the dynamics of a relationship into a toxic one are alcohol, drugs, stress, economic hardship, and unemployment. Many relationships have turned violent due to stress, unemployment, and economic hardship.
If a person loses their job and the lack of money becomes a major factor in a stressful relationship that person could turn to alcohol and drugs to numb the emotions they are bottling up inside. Not being able to pay the bills can become a source of stress for any relationship. Feelings of failure and depression can lead a person to turn to external factors to relieve their pain. Alcohol and drugs can change the behavior of a person and turn a relationship into a violent one.
There are over three million domestic abuse calls to law enforcement each year. Police who enter into a domestic abuse situation are more likely to be killed in the line of duty due to a domestic abuse victim lashing out at the police for arresting their partner.
The sense of loyalty an abused partner has toward their abuser is a factor that is still being studied today by psychologists. Police officers have been trained in how to deal with domestic abuse cases due to the uncertainty and risk they face between the abuser and the abused. People who abuse their partners can be arrested and face prison time for the abuse, and will most likely be forced to see a Therapist.
Finding out what is causing a relationship to become abusive is an important factor in stopping the abuse altogether. The more a person knows about what triggers them to become violent, the easier it will be for them to fix the relationship. Having both abuser and abused attending therapy sessions together is crucial, so that both parties can talk to each other in a controlled environment.
Bringing out the main issues that is causing the relationship to become toxic can be a major point in fixing a relationship. Separation or divorce could end up being the ultimate decision in a relationship that is beyond saving. If a person is not going to stop abusing the victim, then getting out of the relationship as soon as possible, is the best course of action for all involved.