by Bonny Styles
(New York, USA)
Single and Struggling to Find Your Perfect Man?….Try These Top Tips for Bagging a Brilliant Boyfriend
Go On Dates
Even if you don’t think this potential date is for you, loosen up and go and enjoy yourself. What’s the worst that could happen? You have an amusing bad date story to tell your friends later. The best? You actually find your perfect man!
This should be obvious, yet far too many of us fall into the trap of trying to be the person we think someone wants us to be, rather than the person we are. Even if pretending to be something you’re not bags you your supposed dream man; how will you keep up the façade once the relationship starts to get serious?
Your real ‘dream man’ is the one you can truly be yourself around.
The only people who like people that agree with everything they say are those that love themselves just a little too much – and you’re not looking for a relationship with someone who loves their reflection more than they love you, are you?
If someone says something you disagree with, don’t be scared to argue your point. However don’t get annoyed and upset. Stand your ground with grace and you’ll come across as someone who knows her own mind – this isn’t 1950; a woman with her own thoughts and opinions is very attractive.
Not to the point of never actually meeting him for a date, but when he suggests a day, say you’re busy and ‘can he make the next night instead’?
And it might sound like a cliché, but don’t jump into bed with him right away. Make him wait and he’ll want you all the more.
Don’t Live in the Past
What’s the worst thing you can do on a date? Talk about your ex all night. The truth is, he doesn’t give a flying monkey’s what your ex’s favorite food was or where and why he dumped you. He wants to know about you.
Talking about your ex simply makes you look hung up on him, and no man wants to take on that baggage.
Everyone likes to be around happy people, so if you’re a glass half empty kind of girl; start looking on the bright side of life!
If you spend your dates moaning about the food, the wine or the music, he’s going to be wondering what you’re going to start moaning about if you get comfortable in the relationship.
If all else fails, this one always seems to work. You know how when you’re waiting for a bus one never arrives, yet the minute you decide to brave the walk, along come three? Oddly enough, the same logic often applies to men.