by Harriet Bond
(San Francisco, CA, USA)
Cheating is rife in modern society and one of the greatest concerns of men and women alike. So how do we curb this phenomenon? Well, apart from deciding to accept it, there are other options that can help lessen the likelihood of cheating in your marriage.
If both parties are committed to making the relationship work and would prefer monogamy, there is no reason why they shouldn’t have it. Let’s look at the facts.
Cheat-Proofing Your Marriage is Not about Control
It’s important to remember that when you think about cheat proofing your marriage or talk to your husband about it, that there is no room for controlling his actions. These tips are a guideline towards empowering yourself as a couple in order to have a happy and successful, monogamous marriage.
You will never be able to forcibly prevent your husband from cheating, short of tying him to the bedpost and feeding him through a straw. With that said, there are however, some helpful insights into cheat-proofing your marriage from both sides.
The Emotional Connection
Sometimes people cheat because they feel that their relationship lacks the emotional connection that it could have. This can be in the form of communication or even mutual praise and respect. It is true that while cheating is not justified, it is certainly a means for getting the attention and adoration that you may feel is lacking in your marriage. In order to safeguard yourself from this, you need to keep the lines between you and your partner open.
It is important to connect on some level every day so that you can strengthen the bond that you have with one another and increase those loving pheromones that are so important for your long-term love and safety. Don’t blame one another for what you think is wrong. Instead try to open up dialogue and identify areas where you aren’t connecting or could forge a stronger bond. One of the biggest reasons why your partner may cheat is because they feel unappreciated.
Trust the Warning Signs
The statistics are frightening. The truth is that most men don’t (and won’t even consider) telling their wives that they have cheated. SO how are you to know? Without being too accusing it is important for you to trust your gut and take note of the warning signs. If your husband seems more sexual than usual or is away more often, it could be something that needs discussion.
Creating an intimate space with your partner or husband is important. Regular sex can help strengthen intimacy and create a loving space for the two of you. A physical relationship is very important. Having discussions where you both feel open enough to expose yourself can also help build this intimacy.
Speaking to your partner has its benefits outside of just intimacy. This will help you two grow together and get to know one another to the point where you feel open enough to discuss things before they have the chance to get out of hand.