by Harriet Bond
(San Francisco, CA, USA)
For many of us the years have really seemed to fly by. It all started out with frivolous dating and trying to get our careers on track.
Slowly but surely the list of potential faded away as we journeyed on through life and eventually we find ourselves here, at this point, without a partner. Now being alone is not necessarily the end of the world but if you feel as though you are ready to settle down it can sometimes be a daunting task. As we get older we seem to slowly lose the ability to connect with people who could lead us to the mysterious Mr Right.
SO what’s to be done? Lose hope? Of course not. Here are some helpful tips on finding your partner when you feel ready to settle down.
First Think of Yourself!
Before we embark on the magical journey of finding this “perfect man” it’s important to realize that nothing substantial will be achieved if we don’t feel comfortable in our own skin. Now of course loneliness can strike but this is more a reference to the desperate need to have someone else be a major part of your life. Before you can pick the perfect partner you need to know yourself.
Spend some time thinking about what you are looking for in a man and what your basic expectations are. Remember to keep them broad. I don’t mean a detailed description of the different colors in his hair. We are talking about general characteristics. Should he be gentle and kind or wild and fun? This will serve as the basis for your adventure.
Where to Go
So at first you may be completely lost as to where to meet this man. After all, your weeks consist of work, girl’s lunches and family get-togethers. But never fear, all is not lost. You need to think about what kinds of things you like. Consider joining up with that photography group you’ve been interested in for ages or calling Suzy Q who went to school with you. This way you’ll be making and reconnecting with old friends while opening up your network for meeting a great guy.
If you are truly lost, there is no harm in trying a service set up to help you find the “him” that you’ve been looking for. Even though we don’t often talk about it, millions of women are meeting their soul mate through channels like internet dating and speed dating services. Just be careful not to pick up any one who is potentially harmful. A good background and gut-feel check should steer you in the right direction.
What to Do
According to recent research, there are a few fun and seemingly unrelated questions that can help you figure out if you’re compatible with a man in only a few seconds. The first of these is “Do you like to travel?” A person’s desire to travel or love for it can indicate a sense of free spiritedness but also a desire to avoid settling down too much.
If this is not what you have in mind, the likelihood is that the two of you are not on the same page. Other good ones are “Are you a cat or a dog person?” and “You’ve got a million, what do you do with it?” All said with a smile of course.