by Gail Browser
(Boston, Mass, USA)
Relationships in their beginning can normally be paired with a long song. Everything is wonderful, hot, and beautiful. You can’t get enough of each other. You want more and more and finally… The relationship comes to a screeching halt! You both begin to fight, argue, and resent one another. All due to poor communication!.
Communication is important in any relationship. Be it with a lover or a friend. When you can communicate your feelings verbally and physically your relationships will thrive and prosper. Here’s how to do just that!
You don’t often hear the words I love you when shouting or arguing. I can’t really blame you. It would be the last thing on most people’s minds during a fight with their loves, but using those three simple words can have an amazing effect on the outcome of the argument. The words imply what you feel and by saying them you are letting the other person know that you really do love them, even if you’re angry at the moment .
Saying I love you during an argument or heated discussion works much better when you’re calm. The calmer you are the calmer the other person will be. Instead of getting into a heated debate about who did this or who did that, stop. Look around and understand what is going on.
Ask yourself questions and find the answers! Questions like why are you arguing and is this a small matter or big one? Most couples argue over the smallest of things. You’ll soon see that most of the stuff you are fighting about really isn’t worth fighting about.
Allowing your emotions to not rally and staying calm will also open up doors of understanding. You’ll be able to analyze the situation, the argument, and approach it with more logic than feeling. When you’ve mastered this absolutely nothing will stop you.
Your emotions will be under your control and with that your entire situation. No longer will you have to have periods of hatred and annoyance. You’ll be free from all of it!
I can’t promise you that you’ll have everything under control in a matter of days. It does take practice and time, but once you’ve mastered it you’ll never have to worry again. Your relationships will smoother, more enjoyable, and most of all your communication with your partner will open up and be free.