The only person you need to compare yourself to is, the you of yesterday. Contrary to the status quo of the health, fitness and beauty industries (and practically every industry out there) comparing yourself to others is not the answer to success. You should only ever be interested in comparing yourself to who you were yesterday or last week or last year – then ask yourself the question – am I better, worse or the same as before? And if I’m not better, what can I do to become better? Take the fitness environment for instance. For me fitness gives us a rare gift. Fitness gives us the ability to be in the fiercest competition of all – competition with ourselves. Every single time I head ‘into battle’ in the gym I have one goal – be better than the day before. This personal-competition opportunity that fitness gives us can and should be put to good use no matter what your level, ability, age or gender is.
Have you ever walked into a gym for a workout out and immediately find yourself looking around – and instantly start comparing yourself to the other people in there? I know I used to. You probably look for the most in shape people in the gym – and say to yourself “What’s the point – I’ll never be like them.” You know what you’re right, you will never be like them, not because you don’t have the ability to achieve what they have achieved – you do, you most definitely do, but on your terms – not theirs. You’ll never be like them because you’re not them, you’re you. So forget the “what’s the point” attitude, they started out exactly as you did – at the beginning – now their beginning may have been different than yours but they had a beginning nonetheless.
Instead of comparing yourself to them, start using these people as your inspiration. Look to emulate their drive, passion to succeed and work ethic to look the way they do. Don’t compare yourself to them. Your only concern whether you’re starting out or a fitness veteran should be on achieving your goals and bettering yourself and no one else. When you’re only competing against yourself – the feeling is amazing, your motivation sky rockets, you go into every workout expecting success (clever huh?), you don’t concern yourself with others in the gym – you enter what I call the “success zone”. Everything else becomes irrelevant, your workouts are more exciting and are always challenging. There’s a quote from one of my favourite movies ‘Coach Carter’ that always inspires me to strive to beat the me of yesterday, continuously improve and forget about comparing myself to others and I hope it does the same for you.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. It’s not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own lights shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
The message here transcends to any area of your life. Whatever area of your life you’re looking to improve upon whether it’s fitness, in your exams, your love life or whatever, go ‘into battle’ thinking one thing – What can I do today to kick my own a** and better myself of yesterday. Do that and your writing your own success story…